i got on a rant today.  someone asked for my 2 cents… i gave a little extra.

a friend receieved an email from someone asking his opinion on divorce.  here was the question

Do you think it’s possible for God to allow a married couple (even after trying very hard to fix things) to fight so much to the point that they desperately want their single lives back, in order  to make the point that He didn’t want them to be together in the first place? 

i admit, i’ve never been in this place.  i cannot speak from experience.  but as a woman married for 14 years… here were my thoughts.

Whether God did or did not want them together at this point is no longer relevant.  If you made the wrong decision at ‘square one’, He will not draw you back to square one to remake the decision.  Instead He’ll start from where you are. 

I would question how much they’ve worked on their marriage.  How long?  How have they invested?  Counseling?  Mentoring? 

I have a seriously hard time believing that if they both truly wanted to make this work and were willing to throw off everything that hinders them in order to make it work that God won’t bless that.  God is the author of “that lovin’ feeling”.  So if they’ve lost it towards each other then they need to seek the only One that can give it back. 

It’s not an overnight solution.  It may take a long time.  But they have no kids.  They have only their jobs.  From my perspective they’ve got a lot of free time to focus on the right things that will make the relationship work.  

Whether or not God wanted them to become ‘one’ in marriage is irrelevant.  They are now one.  They need to do whatever is necessary to function as one rather than seeking validation to walk away from that.  

like i said… my two cents.  what would you say?

…riding a bike, coasting through an intersection, trying to take a draw from the cigarette tucked between the fingers of his over sized gloves.

i wonder if this guy will earn one of these awards some day.

I’m always on the lookout for good tools that will help me in raising my kids.

You might have some great stuff that I could use. But if you’re going to offer these tools in a book, website, whatever… here’s a tip.

Don’t make the family on the cover look like the perfect, Christ-following family that sits around at home singing Cum-by-yah and sharing personal testimony of how God used them in His Divine and Perfect Will that day.

I can’t relate to that.

Show me a family where the toddler has something hanging out his nose, the ‘princess’ insists on wearing her tiara, and the eldest son is diligently perfecting his armpit fart. Yet they are a reflection of God’s Grace and Joy.

I don’t know how they could capture that in a picture. But that’s a world I know.